Here’s a question. What are the consequences of leaving your potential on the table?
Another. Have you ever considered your unmet potential to be a matter of consequences? That you will – inevitably – wake up and realize you’ve been afraid of your own talents? Have you ever considered how utterly terrifying it is to come to the conclusion that you’re wasting your life, and that – even more terrifying – you have no clue what to do about it?
There’s always tomorrow, right? And besides, you’re not ready. You’re not talented enough. You don’t have enough money, or connection, or access, or whatever. And so you rationalize away all possibility of happiness and meaning.
Success? That’s for other people. Fortune and happiness? Not for me. Actually (you tell yourself), it’s not for anyone. All the successful and happy people are thieves. Skill is an illusion. Life’s not fair. Capitalism is evil. The system is out to get me, etc. And so you rationalize away all possibility of happiness and meaning from everyone. If you can’t be successful, then why should anyone else be?
I pray that the hand you use to draw conclusions about yourself is calm and steady.